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May 6, 2013 A.D.
Updated February, 14, 2020

Five Phases
Walking Recklessly into Perdition


Our Lady Queen of Peace of Medjugorje’s May 2, 2013 Message
Given to Mirjana on the Day for Non-Believers


"Dear children! Anew, I am calling you to love and not to judge. My Son, according to the will of the Heavenly Father, was among you to show you the way of salvation, to save you and not to judge you. If you desire to follow my Son, you will not judge but love like your Heavenly Father loves you. And when it is the most difficult for you, when you are falling under the weight of the cross do not despair, do not judge, instead remember that you are loved and praise the Heavenly Father because of His love. My children, do not deviate from the way on which I am leading you. Do not recklessly walk into perdition. May prayer and fasting strengthen you so that you can live as the Heavenly Father would desire; that you may be my apostles of faith and love; that your life may bless those whom you meet; that you may be one with the Heavenly Father and my Son. My children, that is the only truth, the truth that leads to your conversion, and then to the conversion of all those whom you meet – those who have not come to know my Son – all those who do not know what it means to love. My children, my Son gave you a gift of the shepherds. Take good care of them. Pray for them. Thank you."


JUDGING: Five Phases Walking Recklessly into Perdition

By A Friend of Medjugorje

Our Lady tells us today, clearly, do not judge.

Evan Todd, a fifteen-year-old sophomore, went routinely to school one April morning. His routine was like that of millions of school students across the land that did the same. Two of his classmates also did the same—Dylan and Eric. Todd was in the library with other students when Dylan and Eric walked in. At this point, Dylan and Eric began yelling at the students. The students, already having heard blasts going off before the two boys had walked in, were hiding under the desks. Todd was one of them. The desk he hid under was suddenly blasted with a shot gun and he was wounded. Dylan and Eric had begun their deadly rampage before entering into the library. It would take seven minutes before the two of them would find Todd. During that long period of time, the two killer students went throughout the library. They found Kyle, 16, under a desk and killed him. They fired the shotguns at a table injuring three more students. In another line of desks, they killed 14-year-old Steven, and then injured another student, a 17-year-old named Kasey. They then came upon Cassie hiding under a table. They asked her, “Do you believe in God?” She closed her eyes for a moment as though in prayer and then answered, “Yes,” at which time they killed her. They taunted the rest of the students. The killers then discovered three more students who were athletes. Two were killed while the other pretended he was dead, escaping death by lying in the blood of his friends. After wounding several more students, they then killed 18-year-old Lauren. They had shot 22 people thus far. No one received mercy. It was at this point that they discovered Todd, already wounded, who had moved from the desk he had been hiding behind. They put a gun to Todd’s head and taunted him, saying, “Why should we let you live?" Todd answered them by saying, “I’ve always been good to you.” In a small moment of hesitation, the killers then backed off, left Todd, and went on shooting and setting off bombs for the next 32 minutes. Finally, when swat teams began arriving, the two killers ended their lives. Our Lady said,

“…Do not recklessly walk into perdition…”

But Our Lady tells us not to judge. Does Our Lady also mean false judging will recklessly walk us into perdition?

In the early 1990’s, during the Balkan War, a young Croatian man who had been a guide in Medjugorje from the early days, was captured and put in jail by Serbian soldiers. He was beaten, front teeth kicked out, and like all the prisoners, had to bow on his knees with head to the ground never being allowed to look up at his prison guards. If you looked up you got kicked in the face. One day, the guards decided it was time to kill the Croatian. They typically would take the prisoner out, kill him and dump him somewhere. Another Serb, hearing the guards’ plans, relayed he wanted the pleasure of killing him. They said okay and the soldier took his prey, bound and blind-folded, and put him in a car. The last trip for this guide from Medjugorje. The Serb stopped the car after awhile and got out to carry out the evil deed. Was the guide cursing the Serb? Was he filled with hatred before he would be killed? How, before such a situation, could the one condemned not judge the one who was about to become his murderer? Could we judge what was in the heart of the guide, being that we did not talk to him before he was to die? Our Lady tells us not to judge. Is this even logical in such a situation with such a clear telling of the physical circumstances? When the Croatian guide was pulled from the car and unbound, he knew not to look up, having repeatedly in the past been kicked in the face when he did so. Yet, this is exactly what he was told to do. He was, however, reluctant to obey. Was he going to be kicked when he looked up? Was he going to be kicked if he didn’t obey? Was it another game to taunt him to have his mouth kicked in? Being told to look up, he eventually did so. He was shocked at what happened next. The soldier told him he knew him from going to school with him. The guide barely recognized him and could hardly remember that he had gone to school with this Serbian soldier. The soldier had been keeping an eye on him in prison, trying to find a way to help him. When the decision was made to end his life, he feigned wanting to kill him to have the opportunity to help him escape. The guide is alive today.

Medjugorje visionary, Marija, asked Our Lady about the writings of mystic Maria Valtorta, The Poem of the Man-God. Our Lady told Marija, “One must read them.” In these writings, Jesus tells Peter:

“…it is not right to judge our brothers, because every man has his faults and his faculty of knowing and judging is so limited that seven times out of ten his judgment is wrong…”

Poem of the Man-God, Vol. 4, pg. 190

Did the Medjugorje guide judge he who would kill him? Or did he forgive him as Jesus said from the Cross, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” At least a few on Calvary really thought they were killing a guilty insurgent, a criminal named Jesus. Would they not be judged for killing the Messiah? We do not know what was in the hearts of the two murderers of Columbine High School in Colorado. Why did they turn out to be such heinous murderers? Are they the only ones responsible for what they did? Certainly, they are responsible for their actions! But do we know if they are solely, the only ones guilty before God? What kind of parents did they have? Did they ever experience the love of God which comes through the parents first and the witness of others? Were they odd and out-casted? Did today’s educational systems undermine their belief in the existence of God and eternal life, take their hope away, lead them to believe that there are no consequences to their actions outside of this world that we live in? Our Lady said,

May 2, 2013

“…live as the Heavenly Father would desire; that you may be my apostles of faith and love; that your life may bless those whom you meet…the truth…leads to your conversion, and then to the conversion of all those whom you meet – those who have not come to know my Son – all those who do not know what it means to love…”

Killers Dylan and Eric did not know what it means to love. They were merciless that horrible day at Columbine High School. But even in their evil, even in their mindless rampage, a tiny sliver of love remembered, affected the most beastly hearts of killers in action. That’s how powerful love can be. But, what love? It is love to show good to someone. Todd responded to the question put to him by the murderers, “Why should we let you live?” Todd had recalled some things he had done in his past that was done in the name of good to these loner outcasts or whatever they were to their fellow students. Todd responded, “I’ve always been good to you.” That good, ‘remembered’ by those he did good to, spared his life. Did the guide show goodness to the Serb in high school, good enough to be remembered that the Serb risked his own well-being to allow the guide to escape? Our Lady wants us to realize that goodness, which is love, always comes back to you. In the Redwood Forest in California, in the midst of these giants, stands a national park sign which in part relays that even the most beastly man cannot stand in front of these giant redwoods and not be in awe, moved and gentled by them. Our Lady said,

“…the Heavenly Father would desire; that you may be my apostles of faith and love…”

You are the giant redwoods, the apostles, that are to gentle the beastly world, as you encounter hearts one by one, who come across your path, be they the Dylans, Erics or some like the Serbian soldier. Our Lady said today, to you,

“…that your life may bless those whom you meet…”

Our Lady has relayed that when we pray for nonbelievers we are praying for our own future. Did not Todd’s action of always being good to the two future killers, and the guide’s past positive experience in school come back to them? Yes, but what of those who died in such situations? The good still rebounds. Cassie must have experienced unimaginable joy that will continue for eternity from her one action of goodness in saying “yes” after being asked the question, “Do you believe in God?” How much good has come and will come from Cassie’s good witness of that one word of hers, that “yes” said for all of us? Good expels evil. Evil expands evil when not confronted with good. You giants, the apostle redwoods, are called to love when hated. Even when those who judge you, judge you wrongly.

It is only natural that evil would oppose such a force of good that Our Lady’s messages bring to so many through the graces the Heavenly Father has blessed the world with in this special time in which we live. satan wants us to judge and condemn and this is often grounded in jealousy. When circumstances deems one to judge someone, he should bear in mind Leviticus 19:15, “In righteousness shall you judge your neighbor.” When one is condemning another because of things they themselves are jealous of, the judgment, in essence, arises from hatred. It becomes a tree which grows until it produces deadly fruit. Jealousy is the root, satan its soil, hatred the trunk, disillusionment the branches, misperception which becomes perception the leaves, and victimization the final fruit. How is this to be understood? How does the one who is jealous end up the victim? How does the one who is envied become the persecutor and oppressor of the one who is envious of him? Jealousy becomes hatred, hatred becomes disillusionment, disillusionment becomes misperception, and misperception which metamorphoses to false perception becomes victimization.

1. Jealousy
2. Hatred
3. Disillusionment
4. False perception
5. Victimization

The one who envies another without checking the jealousy, in the end will see himself as a victim. How? By his inability to judge correctly according to what God sees. The Bible teaches how evil jealousy is and that it begins with making a judgment on another. Jealousy will not stay in the character of jealousy, it ferments in the heart if not removed and will build into resentment, where one will come to despise the one they are jealous of, which will eventually metamorphose into hatred. The Bible teaches us that hatred causes one to become blind. Why? Because one who hates has no grace. One who has no grace can no longer see truth. For the one whose jealousy metamorphoses into hatred, at best, truth is blurred. At worst, one becomes completely blind in his discernment as he can no longer discern truth on his own. Our Lady said,

July 31, 1986

“…hatred gives birth to dissensions and does not regard anyone or anything….”

Every individual wants to believe he is in truth. If one hates, he will bend things to his own way of thinking without being able to distinguish what is truth or what is falsehood. This personal truth is called relative truth; a false realization of truth vs. divine truth. Divine truth is beyond the thoughts and opinions of that which flows from the human part of man. We gain divine truth through the Holy Spirit through praying and studying sacred scripture, Our Lady’s messages, God’s creation, the lives of the saints, Church traditions, etc. When one arrives from jealousy to hatred he will begin seeking his own truth apart from God. “Judging” through the lens of hatred, hatred that causes blindness in the person, will lead the person to become disillusioned. Again, the path taken is via jealousy, to hatred, to disillusionment. The one in this state grapples to see what he cannot see as he is blinded to what is truth. Being humble, rejecting jealousy in one’s heart, repenting, realizing jealousy is destructive to one’s clarity of vision of seeing what is good in every one, one can arrive back at grace, at divine truth which is love. Not to reject the jealousy in one’s heart and repent, one will go through disillusionment not knowing what is true, false, good or bad. All will blur with all sorts of beliefs, judgments and ways which will prevail over divine truth. In this state the human desire not to be in disillusionment results in one coming out of the phase of disillusionment and arriving at a false perception that is adopted so to be able to hold on to his own relative or personal truth—in order to perceive what is right in his own eyes. The 4th phase, then, is grounded in misperceiving, thereby adopting a false perception, via jealousy, hatred and disillusionment. Not having a true perception leads to bad judgments of what is right and what is wrong. Many people walk the earth today who have clung to their false perceptions of what is truth according to their own relative truth, which is influenced by others, bad doctrines, faulty educational systems, a bad family life, a bad marriage, a bad society, etc. Not having the grace to see, blinded by hatred that was birthed by jealousy, one comes from disillusionment to a warped perception. Phase 4 is the pivotal point of reversing the situation. Once beyond this, they then will begin to false perceive that they are victims of those they are jealous of. The one who is jealous is wronged in some way by the one who they envy when, in truth, the opposite is the case. This was Jesus’ problem with the Sanhedrin and Doctors. Jealous because of all the people they watched following Jesus turned them to hatred, so much so that they could not even see real miracles as from God because they saw them through their own eyes blinded by hatred. They then became so disillusioned they did not know what to do. They deceived themselves in their disillusionment coming up with a misperception. Jesus became a demon to these great doctors of the Sanhedrin who falsely thought of themselves as His victims! Jesus became the persecutor, the tormentor of the Pharisees and Sadducees. Yet, as we all know, it was Jesus who was the victim. Those who arrive at this 5th phase, however, do not see their own jealousy as its source, rather they see and ‘believe’ their state is a result of wrongs that other’s committed against them and they become in their own eyes the victim. They judged. In this case, the Sanhedrin judged very badly to their own detriment.

Judgments, when based in jealousy that form in one’s own mind, independent of knowing or even wanting all the facts, never end in good fruit. Jealousy will cause a judgment in one’s own mind to distort the facts to justify the condemnation. Man must make judgments to decide the penalty for various crimes, violations of law, etc., but to judge a heart is a different matter. It involves having to gather information on the reason one acted, the way he acted, when and with whom he acted, how he acted, the circumstances surrounding the action, etc. This does not mean man cannot condemn sin when there are evil efforts to try to rearrange marriage, etc., passing laws to normalize sinful abominable behavior. Man can oppose this with all his being in that he has the responsibility and obligation to protect society. However, man does not have the capacity to have all the facts or know the organic spiritual disease a soul may have. Much of the make-up of man that would shed light on the “whys” are known only to God, and only God can judge what is in the heart, and only God can judge the acquittal of the soul or its condemnation. Jesus assured the Pharisee that tax collectors and prostitutes would enter Heaven before they would.

Matthew 21:31

"I tell you the truth, corrupt tax collectors and prostitutes will get into the Kingdom of God before you.”

Our Lady also wants us to know that even if our judgment is correct, we must not discount that in addition to one who may not be good, they may respond towards conversion with love from us, more than they would by being judged by us for their sin. In many ways Our Lady telling us, “…I calling you to love and not judge…,” can be difficult to understand. It can best be understood in what Our Lady Herself has done through a situation with Medjugorje visionary, Marija’s son, Francesco. Marija’s third son, Francesco, did something bad. He was supposed to take a report home from school, have his mother, Marija, sign it and then return it back to the teacher. All of which he did except when he brought it to the teacher, the signature on it was not Marija’s. Francesco had forged his mother’s name. The teacher condemned his action and showed it to Marija, who, being the visionary, was not very happy to see what her son had done. Marija, and Francesco’s dad and brothers were all not happy with him. This was on a Friday afternoon. The next day was Francesco’s birthday. Of course, Francesco wasn’t happy. He was brooding and dreaded now going before Our Lady in the apparitions. For the birthdays of Marija’s children, Our Lady never gives any kind of salutation or any kind of special recognition during the apparition to them. Marija just recommends her children and Our Lady blesses them and that’s it. On this occasion, everybody knew that Francesco went into the apparition knowing this sin he committed in forging his mother’s signature would be a problem for him. Since it was his birthday, Marija did what she always does and recommended Francesco to Our Lady. After the apparition, Francesco was still wearing his brooding face knowing now it will be Our Lady who will be disappointed in him. Marija then explained that when she recommended Francesco to Our Lady, Our Lady did something She had never done before with her children for their birthday. Our Lady said, “Give Francesco my best.” Upon hearing this, Francesco lit up and all were amazed about this, because while everybody else was down on Francesco for doing this wrong that he did, Our Lady comes through love and lifts him up, more to change him than anybody else.

We cannot judge, as Our Lady said today, because we do not have the attributes of God to understand all things, therefore we rely on judgment by appearance. And because of that, it is as Jesus told Peter in the Poem of the Man-God, out of ten judgments we make only three are relatively accurate. Even if we are accurate, what is our reason for judging? Proverbs states that a just man falls seven times a day. Is one of our greatest avenues to sin false judgments then? Who, therefore, is all seeing to judge Dylan and Eric, the Serbian guard, the Croatian guide, the saints, the Hitlers’, the holy, the unholy? Our Lady said today,

“…My Son……………….was among you to show you the way of salvation, to save you and not to judge you…”

“My Son did not come to judge you.” But, what of God? Is He ready to judge us for what we’ve made the world into? The missing words above the dotted line in the message above tells us the answer. Our Lady clearly tells us the intent of God.

“…My Son, according to the will of the Heavenly Father, was among you to show you the way of salvation, to save you and not to judge you…”

Take note, Our Lady did not say, “God the Father”. Our Lady said, “the Heavenly Father”. Why did Our Lady say this? Our Lady highlights “Father” without diminishing Him as God, but rather diminishing in our mentality God as “Judge” and that He is there to judge us. Our Lady shows us by saying “Heavenly Father,” He is there to “father” us, to love us, not to condemn us. He wants to be known in the ideal of our mentality as a warm, loving heavenly Father who is as near to us as a father who comes home every day after work, not some cold mighty God off in a distance who is looking for reasons to judge and punish us.

These writings are written to you as epistles, letters from one who has walked the path, weathered the storms, lived through the lessons, suffered the persecutions, and gained insight into Our Lady’s words through years of experiences after answering Her call to be a witness to “Her way.” A whole village here, at Caritas, is dedicated solely to the living and transmitting of Our Lady’s Medjugorje messages, through the production of the written word, to a spiritually impoverished world. Our Lady’s May 2, 2013, message is a wakeup call to reconcile. Your responsibility is to insure those who need these epistles receive the life-giving words of Our Lady. This mission has its fair share of calumnies, slanders and false judgments against it, birthed from the kind of jealousy that led down the path discussed in this writing. Truth needs no defense as God is truth and perfectly capable of His own defense. Truth, however, does need protection. Protect Our Lady’s plans and this mission from judgments which condemn it.

With Love to All,,

A Friend of Medjugorje

JUDGING: Five Phases Walking Recklessly Into Perdition

by a Friend of Medjugorje

Unforgiveness is the root of sin? What about jealousy? A Friend of Medjugorje covers five phases that lead to a point of no-return. Find out where you are on the scale of walking to perdition.


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